Huddles: Spring 2019

Basic Instructions…

Below is the plan for you to follow as you lead out this study. At the end of this post we have attached the full curriculum that includes some very helpful Bible background and commentary to help you as you prepare to lead. Our prayer for you is that the Lord will bring this Scripture to life in your own life and that your leading will be an overflow from that! Let us know if you have any questions.

The Lead In

FACT: How you view yourself has a deep, profound impact on how you view God and how you view other people. But the contrast is also true: How you view God has a deep impact on how you view others and how you view yourself.

The issue of self-worth is one of the most basic issues an individual wrestles with, but it is also among the most important issues to wrestle with. Who I see in the mirror and how much I value (or devalue) that person informs and infects nearly every thought, every conversation, and every relationship I have. There is no way to understate the reality that the Enemy is absolutely hell-bent on distorting and destroying your sense of worth. And he is relentlessly cunning in that pursuit. Take a moment now and pray for your students; their view of themselves, of God, and of others. All these are intertwined.

(3×5 cards needed. One per person.)

OK, everyone! Here we are! We’re on our LAST arrow! Before we dig into this one, would you share something you remember from this study? Maybe something that gave you some new thoughts to think, new defenses to put to use, or new insights you found helpful.

[Leader, you may need to review the first four arrows to jog the group’s memory!]

Today, we’re wrapping up this study on what I think is probably the most common but potentially most fragile issue we all face: self-worth. Without using the words “self” or “worth,” how do you define “self-worth”? We’ve all struggled at some point (many/most still do) with how we view ourselves. And I’m not just talking about appearances—it’s how you view the person you are. And Satan knows that’s a common weakness, so he goes after it CONSTANTLY.

As we get going, we’re going to let everyone have a chance to hear some words others associate with you. Take a 3×5 card and write three words you’d use to describe the person 2 people to your right. Don’t put their name on it. When you’re done, I’ll collect them and read each card. As a group, let’s see if we can figure out who is being described.

Who would be willing to start us off in prayer?

Digging In

  • Do you see the issue of self-worth in the Garden of Eden? Where?
  • God created humans with his own hands and called them good. Then, Satan calls that value into question when he points out to Eve that she’s not as knowledgeable as God. This questioning leads to the first sin, which is born from insecurity!)
  • What is your honest view of yourself? How do you think it got to where it is?

Have someone read Psalm 139:13-14.

 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

  • What are some words you’d use to describe God’s creativity?
  • If you believe that about God, what can you believe about the you He created?
  • What’s one thing you would change about yourself if you could?
  • What’s one thing God would change about you if He could? Can He? Would He?
  • The word for “fearfully” in this verse means “carefully, thoughtfully, powerfully.” Would you use those words to describe your perception of yourself? Why or why not?
  • Share a time when how you viewed yourself negatively affected someone else.
  • Why do you think the Enemy works so hard to destroy your sense of value? What does he have to gain if you think you’re not worthwhile or lovable?

 

Have someone read 1 John 4:19. Then have everyone recite it.

“We love because he first loved us.”

  • What truth is being stated in this verse? Who loved who first? Why is that important?
  • We learn what love is by knowing we are loved. Do you agree with this statement: “If you don’t know you’re loved unconditionally, you can’t love unconditionally”? Why or why not?

Last Word and Application

What God sees in you is the beauty He created within you. There is nothing you can do to change how much God loves you. He just does. You have the choice to either let that love shape you, your thoughts, your words, and your relationships—or you can deny it and live with the lie that you’re worth less than God says you are.

Which do you choose? Tell your group your choice and let them pray for you.


Click the link below for the PDF version of this week’s study!

Satan’s Favorite Arrows Small Group Wk5 Self Worth